So I get home from the hospital, the dogs are really glad to
see me, and the first thing I have to do is construct a boob barricade as
Sydney, the five month old, seems to take one leap from the floor and land
right on my left breast. Every. Single. Time.
I find that the shredded memory foam pillows we have in the
guest room work really well for this. I
lay one on my chest, and even if the puppy stands on it, I can’t feel any pain.
I just have to remember to build my barricade every time I sit down. I was
thinking of flying a red flag from the top, but decided it was too much.
The older dog Scout wants to lie on my lap, but because of
the boob barricade, she doesn’t have as much room as before, so she stands on
my thighs while trying to decide what to do or worse, right on my kneecap! I
keep straightening her legs saying, “Down, Down!” til she finally drops. Then
she’ll hear something, jump off to investigate, return to my lap, and it’s deja
vue all over again.
In spite of all of that, I love having my dogs around me.
They are a calming force, soft, warm, full of love, and always good for a
laugh.
Left side vs right side
My breast surgeon told me not to lift or really use my left
arm, just some slow gentle stretches a couple of times a day. That is much easier to type than to do. Left
and right are used to working in tandem. Right reaches out for something, left
starts to help. Right yells to left, “No man, you lost the toss; I’m the receiver.” Left drops in abject humiliation.
On the day after I returned from the hospital, I began to
have a strange, heavy feeling in my left bicep, pins and needles etc. I get
concerned, phone the Doc On Call and get reassured that this is normal. Are you
kidding? Nothing going on with my body right now is normal. Now I have to deal with feeling that the whole inside of my upper arm is dead. On a positive note,
the stress of waiting for the DOC helped my stool softener do its assigned
work, and I’m now functioning on all cylinders.
The other left v. right problem is sleeping. I am a stomach
and side sleeper. In my present predicament, stomach is definitely out, and right is the
only side. I remember sleeping in the recliner after my knee replacement, so I
decide to try that again. I’m so tired, that going to sleep is not a problem,
but waking about every two hours is. Still peeing in Technicolor although it’s
getting lighter. ♬ “It’s not easy peeing green.”
After the last potty trip, I try a different recliner. Yes,
we have three recliners in our living room. Two are on the sofa, and are
electric left over from my knees’ inability to push a recliner down. The other
one is manual, but softer, so I move there for part of the night. I try soft
recliner the second night, but by then my back is out of whack. I’m also having
muscle pains from the medication they give you in surgery. I feel like I’ve
been beaten with chains.
Third night, I go back to my own bed which normally is very
comfortable. I manage to get myself into a position that feels good, turn on my
Kindle (I usually read before I go to sleep,) but realize that I can’t turn
over and put my Kindle to the night table without destroying my body position.
No reading tonight.
I drift off to sleep. My left hip wakes me loudly screaming,
“Hello, can we have some variety in positions here?” Nope, not going to happen.
Can’t sleep on my back in the bed; therefore, right it is.
Because of only being able to use my right arm, it is very difficult
to do normal everyday things such as putting on deodorant. What also doesn’t
help is that my entire underarm is numb, so I can’t feel where it is put. I was
told to get a roll-on or spray since a stick would pull too much. The spray
reminds why I quit using spray eons ago. I have to get my husband to roll-on
the deodorant for me. This is very humbling.
I also have this drain hanging down with yucky lymph fluid
etc. dripping into it 24/7. The drain
must be emptied and measured, every so often, and I really would find it very
difficult to do it myself since, I’m not supposed to use my left arm. Enter my wonderful
and supportive husband. He faithfully “milks” the tube into the globe, dumps,
measures, and I record the measurement for my doctor.
It’s not just with the drain that he helps. When you can’t
really move one arm, there are a myriad number of things that are very
difficult to accomplish. Such as pulling
up my pants. Covering myself with a blanket. Putting on a shirt, even a button up one.
Now, let’s talk about taking a shower. I would venture a
guess that most husbands and wives have, at some time in their marriage,
showered together. It is sexy and romantic. What is neither sexy nor romantic
is the kind of shower we have to take now.
In order to take a shower, my devoted husband must cover my drain
with a special plastic bandage, so it won’t get wet. Then he helps me undress. Luckily we already had a shower chair and grab bars in our
bathroom. I sit in the bath chair, and he sprays my hair and washes it for me. The running
of the warm water down my back is wonderful. I want to sit all day in that
relaxing feel. He washes my arms and back, and I can feel his love, at the same
time I feel my inabilities. As he was helping me once, I said, “I guess this
is the ‘in sickness’ part.”
We have been married almost 47 years. I am no longer the 19
year old with the taut stomach and perky breasts. I am wrinkled and saggy, and
right now, covered with steri-strips and bruises. He touches me with the same
love he did 47 years ago.
Maybe I’m wrong about the romantic – but definitely not
sexy.
Out, Out, Damn Spot
My surgeon told me she would probably have my pathology
report the Thursday after my Friday surgery. I know they have their team
meeting on Thursday, so figure I’ll get a call sometime in the afternoon. I
make sure that my phone is with me at all times during the day. At supper,
after not having heard anything, I say to my husband, “I guess they didn’t get
the pathology report back. Maybe tomorrow.”
But I want that pathology report back, and I want it now! I
need to know if I’m going to have to return to surgery because the margins
weren’t clear. I want to know if more nodes than the one I already know about
are full of nasty cancer. I want to know if there are any surprises.
It’s time to empty my drain. My husband handles the
disgusting stuff with aplomb. I return to the living room, and pick up my
phone. I hadn’t taken it with me, but I also had not heard it ring. But of
course, the surgeon had called and left a voice mail. I message her back asking
her to please call back as soon she can, and a very short time later, she does.
“It’s not all bad,” she begins, and my heart begins to race.
OK, what’s the bad part?
“You no longer have
any cancer in your breast. The mass was about 2 cm. The margins were clear. ”
Wonderful, I think, what’s the bad part?
“I took out 27 lymph nodes, and three were positive.” Hey, 3
out of 27 is pretty good odds. What’s the bad part?
“We discussed you in the team meeting today, and the
oncologists want to meet with you before they set a regimen for chemotherapy.” She
then begins to talk about possible regimens using abbreviations for the chemo
drugs. I only understand about half. What’s the bad part?
It turns out there really is no bad part, at least not one I
didn’t already know about. I knew before surgery that I was going to have to
have chemo. Maybe she forgot that we already knew I had a positive node. Many
women do not discover this until surgery, so chemo can be a big shock.
She also said the radiologists want to use a newer therapy
on me called
3-D Surface Imaging to
Facilitate Deep-Inspiration Breath-Hold (DIBH): Patients receiving
radiation for left-sided breast tumors while in the supine position (lying
chest up) are at greater risk for radiation exposure to the heart. Women can
minimize this risk by breathing deeply and briefly holding their breath during
treatment, which moves the heart and lungs away from breast tissue. To make
DIBH easier for the patient, our experts use a state-of-the-art system that
relies on 3-D surface imaging to detect the breast's position for accurate
treatment. This highly sensitive technology delivers radiation only during
optimal positioning, and shuts off automatically when the patient coughs or
exhales.
This is why I am so happy about using the University of
Chicago for my breast cancer. They have stuff like this.
So this has been my week. Learning to protect myself from
loving dogs, learning to live without my left arm, learning to lean upon my
husband.
Tomorrow is my post-op appointment, and I get some idea of
the next level of torture –
Chemotherapy!